Well, I hear you. And to a certain extent I am with you.
I believe you are uttering the pondering of many a person, not only in this forum.
That said, I have to probe a bit deeper into my former question. As much as I am with you on a chivalry code, as much I have to ask the following:
Maybe you took the 'harming' to mean it in a literal and physical sense, but you can harm someone in a more ways than just physically.
I am with you on harm in many different ways. I'd probably even say that physical and psychic damage are equal in there severity. (Maybe the latter is even more destructive..)
But even under that assumption: Why give women and children more importance in their right to stay unharmed? Is it more appropriate to hurt or humiliate a male?
Let me clarify this by the modification of your statement:
"I'm simply saying that if I were to offend a man and he were to lash out or hit me, the last thing I (or any one else for that matter) would do is hit him back."
I believe we have to change our balderdash of "emancipation" and "same rights for everybody" into what we
pretend is there of it. Else it is nothing, but a pack of lies.
To state that a man is expected to defend his honour in a harming way (obviously by hitting the other person, or lashing out in a non-physical manner) from another male being is dissembling in the face of the belief that man and woman are equal. (Children being small men and women!)
[My apologies for strange looking constructions and word choices, I am not a native English-speaker
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