this worked for me.
Disable adblock and noscript addons for firefox if you have them.
If you own a router, set up a static ip for your computer and open the flash ports 1935, 443, 80
If you need help setting up a static ip go here
http://portforward.com/networking/staticip.htmIf you need help on opening ports for flash go here
http://portforward.com/ and select your router, then after the advertisement select the "default guide" hyperlink
my delay is down to 10-15 seconds since i did this! it was 40+ before.
I still fail the flash connectivity test here:
http://kb2.adobe.com/cps/164/tn_16466.htmlSo something is still wrong. but im pretty happy with the results anyways.