Thanks for replies, 3 main ways forward.
Aves good advice on Bronze, i have noticed trends, there are really 2 types that kill me,
Anti-quanta, with burrowers and discord, and the other type are the big and fast where a few turns in they have 4 or 5 big creatures killing me fast.
Now i can counter both of these types, individually, but i cant counter both so that means whatever i do I cant get a streak going I'm working on a rainbow to counter both, but it dont work
FGs yes i'm noting the gods and building counter decks, so far i have met 3
dark matter, got owned
Decay made a fight of it but lost
seism got owned
for all 3 I looked for counter decks, but could only find out of date ones, and general advice
Pets, yes i use them to my best advantage , so far my 3 pets where
Virus, Dejuvu and (i forgot), all 3 where useful and i made sure i had a deck where they would help, but they were not exactly game changing, its early days and i might get some better ones
AI4 i'm going with fighting AI4 today, if i can build this mono aether deck for 1k then that's very doable
Edit
Maybe i'm just unlucky:
Mark of Aether
8x Aether Pillar
6x Dimensional Shield
5x Immortal
4x Phase Dragon
7x Aether Pendulum
80% lose no winning spins, its almost idiot-proof to play, yes i get my shield out asap, and replace them at 0
i'm going to try the steals option, although my main problem is not their shields but that i die to fast.